How I Deal With Loneliness

 

CHRIS, 9/26/2022 8:50 AM MST / 10:50 AM EST

Sometimes your life will dip down into a dark hole, and have a hard time trying to get out of that funk. Well let me tell you, no one's advice is going to do jack shit for you. In fact, this short article won't do much to improve anyone's mood. Depression and loneliness is like a heavy Stone, one you can't lift by yourself. 

And I've tried psychologists and therapists - they don't help. I wasted $1,000 going to two of them. Do you want to know what I learned? One man just offered one liners which didn't help much. He charged me $200 an hour. I gave up after 3 sessions of time wasting.

The other person was $100 an hour, and had me listen to some nonsense youtube video about imagining something in the desert. I just can't make this shit up. In addition to that, I was getting flirtatious text messages from that person. I cut her loose, this person is married and ugh, so awful in general. 

Life is like a monopoly board game. But instead of collecting $200 every time you pass, you get punched in the face. Drugs and alcohol do nothing really to dim anything. These spirals are easy to sink into, and they are far too easy to fall down into. 

Helpful advice:

• Keep busy - I find moving around helps distract from the pain of loss
• Workout - Go exercise, take a walk, explore but do it safely
• Cut and remove toxic people from your life ('family' and so-called 'friends')
• Write about it, draw, or do something creative

These horrible feelings will pass in time. I find depression ebbs and flows. Joining therapy groups or meetups is useless. Why would I want to waste time with a bunch of people I do not want to meet or have any relationship with? And to be quite honest, many people who join meetup are just plain weird. 

Nope!

Most if not all people I meet end up attracted to me. This creates a push-back effect when you encounter me. Except for a few people who know me, this is always on. I have to do this to keep the crazy people away. And there are many. Just because you are a man in today's society doesn't mean you are immune from cat calls and comments from men or women.

Just this past weekend I had several men and women make comments about me when walking by. And some were not nice at all. 'Is that available?' or 'What is THAT?'. 

Yesterday, I was walking down a path, a man walked by but I didn't look. He said out loud "Am I nothing?!" in an indignant tone. 

Good luck.

CHRIS

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