Pathway to Forgiveness
Today was my first Easter without Theresa. It was especially difficult for part of the day. But now I am more composed and calm.
I watched a great video by psychologist Joan Rosenberg. She herself suffered 5 major losses in 1 year (4 deaths, 1 relationship breakup). In the video she explains her coping strategy. I think I will try it.
https://youtu.be/UacbvBcbP34?list=PLtUm5_2uhJg3J4Y22M1aT6JYXqk6xFFnp
Her TedX talk is very insightful. She explains how she worked through her grief and disappointments. Her depth of wisdom is incredible. I could tell she is a very kind person, she opened with "kindness is something I strive for".
During her talk, she mentions a few phrases that stuck with me.
You can never do what was undone,
Nor can you undo what was once done.
Forgive yourself for what you did or did not know
Forgive yourself for what you did or did not do
Forgive others for what they did or did not know
Forgive others for what they did or did not do
The more you stay present, to the truth of what your life was, the more you free yourself to create what you want your life to be.
I was watching a series on Youtube specialized on grief. Another woman on stage, at another TedX, spoke about her life as a railroad track and a train. When her husband died, she immediately was taken off the old reliable track and placed on poorly-constructed, shoddy rails.
A plexiglass wall separated what her old life was and her new life on the crappy set of railroad tracks.
Yep, sounded familiar to me.
I was thinking, now that I don't have a skateboard anymore, it might be nice to get into cycling again. I hadn't owned a bike since I was 17 years old. I gave my old custom-made mountain bike to my brother. But this time, I decided to buy a road bike, but not for speed or racing.... it was just because I knew I could buy a bike without much hassle.
So I went through Costco and got their Northrock SCR1 road bike. I still have to get a helmet, and lights. The bike may take a few weeks to arrive.
I watched a great video by psychologist Joan Rosenberg. She herself suffered 5 major losses in 1 year (4 deaths, 1 relationship breakup). In the video she explains her coping strategy. I think I will try it.
https://youtu.be/UacbvBcbP34?list=PLtUm5_2uhJg3J4Y22M1aT6JYXqk6xFFnp
Her TedX talk is very insightful. She explains how she worked through her grief and disappointments. Her depth of wisdom is incredible. I could tell she is a very kind person, she opened with "kindness is something I strive for".
During her talk, she mentions a few phrases that stuck with me.
You can never do what was undone,
Nor can you undo what was once done.
Forgive yourself for what you did or did not know
Forgive yourself for what you did or did not do
Forgive others for what they did or did not know
Forgive others for what they did or did not do
The more you stay present, to the truth of what your life was, the more you free yourself to create what you want your life to be.
I was watching a series on Youtube specialized on grief. Another woman on stage, at another TedX, spoke about her life as a railroad track and a train. When her husband died, she immediately was taken off the old reliable track and placed on poorly-constructed, shoddy rails.
A plexiglass wall separated what her old life was and her new life on the crappy set of railroad tracks.
Yep, sounded familiar to me.
I was thinking, now that I don't have a skateboard anymore, it might be nice to get into cycling again. I hadn't owned a bike since I was 17 years old. I gave my old custom-made mountain bike to my brother. But this time, I decided to buy a road bike, but not for speed or racing.... it was just because I knew I could buy a bike without much hassle.
So I went through Costco and got their Northrock SCR1 road bike. I still have to get a helmet, and lights. The bike may take a few weeks to arrive.
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