Eye Contact is Key

 I take the GoPro on a lunch walk and head down to a coffee shop I frequent from time to time. They the best roasted coffee I've tasted in Calgary. Although more expensive, it's worth the trip for me.

In previous posts, I discussed the importance of eye contact and attraction. Today, we had another solid example of this.

I've seen this pretty younger woman at the coffee shop a few times now. But this time, I focus my eyes into hers as I speak to her. It lasts only 4-5 seconds, but I did have an impact in our communication. We stared into each others eyes for what seemed a very long time. But in reality, it was 5 seconds, max.

I asked her nicely for some Espresso coffee, and she stammered back, almost stunned, asking me about the order again. Another look into the eyes, and I repeat the order very calmly, and smile. She gets my coffee and I walk around, and notice she looked at me when I stepped back.

When she brought my order to me, she gave me the bag of coffee. I then looked again, and asked her for a plastic bag. This caught her off guard, and she stepped back, and motioned both hands around her to look around. But it almost looked like she was doing the magician movement: When you take both hands above your head, and wave each arm out, in a silhouette of her body. 

She turns around and finds the bag, and puts her hand in each hold, opening the bag. I place the coffee into the bag. Now here's where it gets interesting. Most people would just turn around and leave the customer to take the bag and walk away.

But she did something very, very telling. She kept her hands in the holes, even after I put the coffee in the bag. I then took my left hand, and gently took the bag from her right hand, brushing against her fingers and pulling the bag away.

She kept the left hand in the bag. I moved my hand over to the other hand and repeated the process, but a little slower. I swear I could feel her fingers gently tug mine as I pulled the bag away from her hands. It was a surreal and sexualized moment. An electric shock went through me.

I thanked her for the coffee and wished her a good day. That touch was a woman's way of showing interest. I'm going to have to go back on Friday and see if I can get another kind of coffee. And her phone number. 

That simple touch set off a massive amount of communication. I am still thinking about it.