Infidelity and Why People Cheat

 

The numbers are pretty stark. The higher the position or more money you make, the higher the risk of infidelity. Why is this so?

I pull up a chair.

Think back to when you met someone really powerful in life. Did they appear larger, more pretty, or even more posed and polite? This is the illusion of perceived power that grasps everyone firmly.

You are judged by looks whether you like it or not. When you rise in a corporate structure, you meet more beautiful people. It's no accident you see pretty news anchors, executive management staff, and even personal assistants in companies looking like super-models. It's power.

Now think back to someone you like but has so little power. It's difficult to isolate this feeling of being unsure. People in power command a presence and illusion of being in control. But in reality, all these people do is stare at Microsoft Outlook e-mails and calendars, spaced out doing nothing. Their teams meetings consist of stupid yes and no statements. 

People who have little power but are confident - those people are rare. Most people jump from treat to treat, or pleasure to pleasure. They don't believe in 'putting off pleasure or work for a while'. Instead, they hit that pleasure button like a mouse, repeatedly, and having emotional and sexual affairs. It destroys the marriage and trust in a relationship. And without that, there isn't much love left to talk about.

But back to the story. You're rising in rank in the company, and asked to appear in the Vice-President's office. His secretary is a super-model and winks at you. This is exactly what is wrong in today's society.

I've never cheated and hope never to. 

My strategy is different:

1. Always be professional and polite

2. Be situational aware of where you are and the risk

3. Be faithful

And these are not in order of importance. Now what happens when people meet you, they are confused, and their flirting will increase tremendously. You'll get phone calls, texts, and social media chats from out of nowhere. And they are not good reasons at all.

The thought of having my loved one crying alone on the couch due to my infidelity would kill me. 

And I would never do that.

There are strategies and things you can do to remain faithful in a marriage or relationship. 

Sometimes all you need to do is google "How to remain a faithful partner in a relationship"

For everyone struggling with this, good luck and God speed.

Chris